yesterday, we spent the afternoon with people whose loss is so great that it fills a universe.
i also read that pavlov's laboratory had a burst water pipe, and the trauma of that event, un-conditioned each and every one of the dogs in his care.
somehow it seems that a great tragedy and shock rips out everything we thought we knew, and the choices you make THEN are the ones that are with you from that crossroads on. it's no wonder we feel like a blank slate filled with only pain, or only fear, or only anger. we really are exactly that.